I woke up this morning at 9:30 am, I don't think I have ever slept in that late. I must have needed it.
Yesterday was a rough day with my daughter, and then last night my son was a mess. This morning the two of them are fighting and snapping at each other non-stop.
I have decided that their issues have to be my priority. They are not doing well. They are improving, both in IC, but even so, the day to day with them is extremely stressful.
D is 14 and every word she says to me is just dripping with condescension. And she has a neurological condition which makes her react to certain sounds with rage, mostly me and H, mostly me because I am the one at home with her. So between the condescension and the rage, I am worn out.
Then there is S11. He cries every time D walks in the room, if he hears her from the next room, if he sees her through the window, etc. And by crying I mean full fledged hysterical crying and he tells me she is making comments or gestures to him that I do not see. She is either very sneaky or he is imagining this. My guess is a bit of both.
So, please, any advice or books or techniques that anyone can recommend to me, please help me. I have read everything, and tried everything , but I am worn out and overwhelmed and maybe need to look at my sitch with a beginners mind. See, DB applies to everything. Maybe I should write out goals for them?
Start small, they should greet each other- hello, good morning, etc.
They should stay in separate rooms at all times, and we can start with 5 minutes at a time of being in same room with out screaming/crying.
I can ask my son's IC for more direction. Right now they are working on S "letting go" of certain triggers, and then with the bigger, non-negotiable ones, using words to describe his feelings instead of screaming.
I have too much going on, too much stress, too much emotion, too much for one person to handle.
