[So where are the goals for YOU to use W five love languages?
A sample from a simple search of it! //preengaged.com/how-to-love-your-physical-touch-partner-love-language-practical-tips-part-2/
------------------ Your 'goals' with W are measurements of achievement not the goals and actions themselves.
Goals are things you do, not things W does.
So
1. My goal is xxxxxxx and I know I have achieved it when W uses her nickname for me (affectionate nickname) 3 times a week? either written or vocally.
This will mean she is thinking of me more positively. mind reading leave out
2. My goal is to behave xyz five times a day for the next 4 weeks so that W says she will agree to see an IC/MC when I suggest it. Then I book it.
3. I softly initiate a shoulder rub or foot massage every two or three days initially for 5 mins and she accepts
4. I do xyz so that I encourage W to compliment me on a positive change I have made since BD i.e. 'Your such a good father to the kids'
5. When W wears her wedding band again. THIS IS PARTIALLY ACHIEVED This is W behaviour it might be something you notice or measure
6. I suggest a different activity every week and plan for it, the movies skating, walking on a beach and I make this enjoyable. I insist on a small treat every time and I behave without expectation.
When W is 'happy' to go out with me at a function without the kids - even as 'friends'. Mind reading her feelings
SHE SAID YES TO THE MOVIES!
Include;
I help W with her coat, shopping, touching her hand arm or back lightly as I smile. I pass her glasses of wine with lingering touch. Help her make the beds. I spontaneously do a funny dance. I say let me do that, and comb her hair. I open doors and use every opportunity to 'accidentally' connect.
I initiate 2 conversations a day about things important to W by leaning forward to ask about her day, how her sick gran is etc. I listen intently without interrupting or solving her problems. I nod agreement.
I validate correctly and I project my strength to her. ____________________________ In your case it is better to ask for forgiveness rather than permission.
There is a video of Tony Robbins on the Oprah showcase that I would like you to watch. It includes body language and acting and behaving as if.
Can you redo these goals? These are your most important ones.
After this we can set some for initiation of sex and planning to be spontaneous!
V isn't going to allow excuses to become reasons. However if you want to tell me back off I will and without offence. Posters here do say V another time, it's ok.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 11/14/1504:40 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
