6 months in the storm

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I was doing some research on selfishness in a marriage and I came across this
Selfishness is one of the major obstacles to marital communication and thereby harms the marital friendship. This personality conflict results in a spouse manifesting a number of weaknesses including failing to listen, trying to dominate the conversation, failing to respect and appreciate the views of one's spouse, speaking in a critical and angry manner and competing verbally.

This describes STBXH to a T. I'm beginning to question how I could be so blind or naive to this for so long. My blindness and his selfishness was ruining our marriage and neither of us did anything about it. I am not blind anymore and it has helped me DB through this. I am working on me everyday. Will he ever want to work on himself?

I have a voice now and won't let him dominate what I do or say. I Am doing what is best for me and for S4. I make my decisions based on that. I will continue to show him compassion and appreciate him for being there for S4.