I so agree, Flight. I always felt there was a slightly selfish, egocentric view my H had. He's just allowed it to run increasingly riot over these past 5 years.
Anicaire, I also agree with you. That's the thing that causes me most pain...missing how much my H was changing. I'm still tortured by that, and sometimes really wish I could turn the clock back. I don't know what to do to deal with this feeling.
