I wasn't going to post right now but saw your bumped question. What kept it going? Hmmm. Maybe part of it was that Mr. Wonderful was still not trying to connect with me and OM was. Maybe I was still not immune to hearing nice things be noticed and shared with me. Maybe a little bit of fear?
I actually knew the month after getting back in contact with my friend that it was taking me to a dangerous spot, and I tried to end all contact. My friend didn't take it well, and acted sort of psycho. It scared me. I really wasn't quite sure what to do with all the info, Deb.
The only thing I DID know after a couple months was that I was horribly confused and hurting terribly. I figured I owed it to everyone to try and get to the bottom of things in therapy.
Which I did. I spent almost a year in individual counseling just trying to sort things out. Fortunately for ME, I was at the tail end of it when he walked out. I was actually in a much better place emotionally, and able to figure out what I needed to do here (getting on board with DR and getting a plan of action).
I'm extremely happy I didn't have to start from scratch and figure this out in the middle of the turmoil. God must have spared me the agony of being an idiot at the same time my H was being one.
And maybe He has a sense of humor?
Just remember that you can only change how you think and react to your H. He has to change too. It sounds as though he's making progress on that front.
Take care and a big hug.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
