She Wants me to leave...no way! 3

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Review of Goals. NB W goals are a work-in-progress. I have archived the goals I have achieved.

With W:

1. When W uses her nickname for me (affectionate nickname) more frequently either written or vocally. This will mean she is thinking of me more positively.

2. When W says she would like Us/her to see an IC/MC. An ultimate goal?

3. When W asks for a shoulder rub or foot massage or if I initiate a shoulder rub or foot massage and she accepts

4. When W compliments me on a positive change I have made since BD i.e. 'Your such a good father to the kids'
5. When W wears her wedding band again. THIS IS PARTIALLY ACHIEVED
6. When W is 'happy' to go out with me at a function without the kids - even as 'friends'. SHE SAID YES TO THE MOVIES

(NB I need to flesh out the action points below)

Action for W goals:

To work towards being a more confident, self assured individual, and eliminating any remaining Nice Guy tendencies. To be more lighthearted and flirty, chatty with the opposite sex, Someone who W will respect and find attractive.

How: Taking more responsibility for organising childcare, being involved with my kids after school activities, volunteering for the scouts, loving and playing with my children more and Continue with my fitness and GAL regime.

Kids:
6. I will show love to our boys each and every day through word and deed...4
7. I will bring fun and laughter into the house and lighten the mood...3
8. I will do more to organise childcare...4
9. I will ring the kids before bed every night I am working away...5
10. I will kiss the kids goodnight and hug them and say ILY when I am at home...5

GAL:
11. I will reignite my passion for running and enter a few races ...4
12. I will start salsa dancing lessons – one or two per week...5
13. I will contact old friends and meet up with them – one every two weeks....3

Personal

19. I will do spontaneous act of kindness to friend, neighbour or stranger as opportunities arise....3
20. I will assert myself physically through open body language, stand tall, eye contact, face W, listen, don't interrupt, validate....3
21. NEW GOAL I will chat more to strangers to become more extrovert, engaging, and friendly



ACHIEVED GOALS!

14. I will take care of myself with regard to sleep and reduce my sleeping pills...5 (NB I havent used sleeping pills for 8 days)
15. I will maintain my present weight and not lose anymore....5
16. I will shave each and every day ...5
17. I might get some Botox? (If W can have it so can I!)..5
21. I will look to update my wardrobe...5
22. I will read NMMNG, and Hold on to your NUTS...5