Hello focuss22. I am so very sorry that you have to go through this. What is sad for me is that I could have predicted everything that your husband has said. What I am learning is that they all say the same thing about what a lousy spouse they have and it doesn't matter what the spouse did because it was never enough. There is a line in a country song that says "If I really could have hung the moon would you change your mind?" That's where we are. We have tried very hard but are told everything is our fault. I think the real work here is getting to a point where we love ourselves and focus on making ourselves happy and learning a few tools to deal with our spouse. Or dealing with our next spouse!
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
