Whether your D's changing gym has an effect on your W is not something to concern yourself with.
Keep your focus on you and keep on making good decisions, like the one regarding your birthday.
Glad the book is on its way, more of what is being said here will make sense once you've read it.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?