The book of Lou - Chapter 4

[Sotto]

Hi Lou, I'm sorry the visit didn't work out, and that plans for moving may also change. I can understand your disappointment, but I also think you handled things really well.

I do see many positives with your sitch. It sounds as though the therapy for your H is helpful and he is genuinely gaining new insight from that. From my perspective, it will be so good for him to work through all of this. And I think that would probably be more difficult with trying to rebuild your R into the mix.

That said, he ultimately sounds committed to doing this - albeit not on the timescales you might have started hoping for. It is important to remember that he is still in crisis. And whilst it sounds to me as though the replay stage has ended - what follows needs to be some serious introspection to understand why he 'ran' in the first place.

For now, I would keep looking after Lou as your number one priority and keep the comms channels open with H. Accept and be glad for what you have now and enjoy the things you have in life today. In the longer term, you and H may both feel ready for some serious rebuilding, but he has some work to do on himself first and I'm glad he realises this.

Take care my friend - you are doing really, really well xx