Still so much going on in your sitch, so much change. You are sensitive and this D has blown a big hole in whatever shell you had, and now it's all exposed. For so long, you relied on her to close that hole because she had blown it open. And now it sounds like you have taken it upon yourself to heal, without expecting anything of her anymore. Of course, I also think it's the right track, as these people have moved on or at least or detached in a way that we can't fathom in our pain. This may well be the beginning of a new path for you, one that will bring you more solace than ever.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.