Pho, my confusion was that I can't trust my feelings because 1 day I feel one way and another day I feel different and I don't know what's right. Especially due to my anxiety and quickness to catastrophize things. She just said that I have to realize that I have a right to them because they are feelings and it doesn't matter what husband is doing or isn't doing (is he like this because of alcohol or OW) or if im wrong or right. She mentioned I'm still in the same situation regardless and entitled to feel what I feel. And went over a way to look at one of those thoughts more logically but we need to get into it more. (Only 2nd session and she's trying to get a background)
She didn't really say how to express them. I mentioned to her my lack of assertiveness ( thank you vanilla. This was great observation) and she took notes.
She also said, I have to act quickly and legally and get things In writing to protect myself. This has me nervous, because right now I have kids majority of time and am happy with this. I worry about the confrontation and battle. It's hard because of course I have to view him as an enemy. The legal process is terrifying to me. Also I don't know if he wants to be an enemy. Maybe he wants amicable relationship and me making first move in sneaky way will make him get nasty back. This comment invoked tons of anxiety in me lol.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
