She started to put up more and more barriers and I reverted to Nice Guy tactics, and buried my head in the sand.

Describe the barriers? What worked, what didn't? Did you keep a Darcy, did you journal? If this was an important job project what would you do?

The barriers were time (lack of) and place. W gets up for work at 6:00am every day and sleep is precious to her (woe betide anyone who wakes her early) so no chance in the morning M-F. Sat and Sun am she goes to the gym. Friday night and/or Sat night she would go out and then sleeps in until it time to get up and go to the gym or for me to go on my GAL activity (cycling). Also she made it plain - no sex in bed on Sat/Sun morning - its boring. In the evening after kids were put to bed, she changes into a Onesie (a Dalmation!) - the biggest passionkiller ever invented - but apparently its comfortable.

Lack of connection, chemistry, passion, spontaneity-->lack of desire ->barriers and my response.... well at least everything else in the MR is ok. I am supportive, we communicate well, WOA, gifts, we dont fight etc. If I keep my head in this sandpit and dont rock the boat everything will be ok?


Also we never went on enough dates with just the two of us.

So where is the action plan? There was none

Last edited by isittoolate; 11/13/15 09:33 PM.
Me49 W45
T15 M13
S11 S8
BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12
Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12
W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing!
May-Oct14 drifting
Dec 14 W agrees to more QT
BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY
W filed 1/25/16