Hi Fogg. Thanks for inquiring. I am doing well. I kept wanting to reply to some of the previous posts, because I really value all your opinions, but I just could not find the time - Sorry all. I have been very involved with work. I have said it before, but I just cannot afford to let my work slide. It would just add to my stress. I have a LOT on my plate right now.
Today was a very hard day. My W sank to a new low. She switched Ls and her new L is a pit bull and a big jerk. We met today. He was very rude and he marched into the office trying to dictate all the terms. He was insulting and tried to make it personal. When we would not have it, he LITERALLY walked out with my W, saying he is going to take us to court. So much for dissolution. He and my W will be filing for the D. I think this is going to get ugly. I am trying to rise above it rather than stoop to their level.
This move was very shocking. I don't know my W anymore. It feels like she really wants to hurt me and she is getting advice from people who really want to hurt me. I try not to take it personally, but it still hurts. In a short while, I will still have to walk into my house with a smile on my face and treat her like a neighbor. Very hard.
On the bright side: 1) Even her L admitted that I am a very caring and involved father 2) I am thankful that I am stronger than I was. A few months ago, a confrontation like this would have knocked me out for days. I was shaking by the end of the meeting today - I have never been treated so rudely before, but I regained my composure and actually got some work done. I feel pretty good right now, because in reality, nothing changed today. My mission is exactly the same: Go home and be a great father for my children. smile, spend time with them, fill their love tanks. I even have a GAL activity planned. 3) My L really stood their ground and was not flummoxed. 4) the entire community supports me.
