Answer to: "why didn't you hear it from ME?"

[Flight]

Are we kidding ourselves? Are we buying into the marriage reconciliation indusry, where they make money on books and coaching? Is it noble and kind to be the martyr and try to save the marriage? Or when somene is showing you they don't want to be with you, are the one-way texts and trying to fill their love bank and waiting them to "come around" just selfish and arrogant, as in you know best for them. They are in the fog and they will see the error of their ways when they come out of it.

Is it new-agey or correct to say, "I respect your right to choose, even if your choice is to have an affair"? And then what? Go dark? Divorce immediatlely because being subjected to that treatment is just "wrong"? I suppose it would be easier for me if I didn't all the complications of finances, feelings about romantic love and family, and also trying to wonder what is really best for our D.