I agree. It is also part of being M. That's why I struggle. Is being her friend the first step to rebuilding? It seems like I have read it both ways on here
Hey dd, this IS confusing, until you add the phrase 'once the dust settles' or 'until she fully commits to the MR'.
Your wife wanting to be friends is not a commitment worth a can of beans. She has not fully committed to you with Actions yet, has she?
I am one of the biggest proponents (well maybe one of the more outspokenews ones anyway) of rebuilding friendship and being vulnerable and all of that...it will not work for you until your wife respects you and your marriage again.
You are just meeting one of her needs for security and xompanionship. That Is not a husband. That is someone that can be replaced tomorrow if her whim calls for it. Until you say, uh-uh I am not going to be her platonic buddy while she figures out how to leave or pines for her next om, than this cake eating Bullshit will continue.
Does that.make sense. Read Sandi's words as if they were cannon, because they are so powerful that it is crazy howany of us ignore what she says for those own reasons.
Sending you strength to find your manhood in this!
