So all day today I actually felt pretty balanced and level. Then my job throws me a curveball and I'm not gonna be able to meet with XF tomorrow?!?! Saturday morning now and my anxiety shot through the roof! Uggghhhhh
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Hey Uphill, I have an odd question: I have been following your threads and really like your ideas. Would it be odd to ask if you could take a look at my situation and let me know what you think? If so, then I understand. Thank you!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Hi Uphill - pleased for you with the developments in your sitch. Should the question here be - will you give her another chance, rather than she give you one? Starsky always said the number one mistake LBS's make is letting their WAS back too easily. Maybr take some time to think about what you really want.
Good luck either way though..
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Spiff, I thank you for stopping by and your words of encouragement! I may have a little down time later today and try to catch up on your sitch. I followed it early but I have had a lot going on and fell behind on a few. One thing I want to point out is that a lot of what I have done, is not DB. I understand the concepts and all of that, I have a hard time with keeping my mouth shut and doing the right thing at times. I get to caught up in the moment.
Sotto, thank you also. In the end we would be giving each other another chance. Yes she was the WAS. I had my hand in pushing her to that point. What I want is for XF and I to raise our son together and I feel right now, that I will take on any challenge that stands in the way of that. Tomorrow may be different. Next week may be different. But that is where I am right now. Don't get me wrong, no "free passes". I would have to see genuine effort and a lot of trying on her side of the court.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I can't imagine how you must be feeling, I am feeling anxious on your behalf! Good luck, try to get some sleep tonight and approach the meeting tomorrow with a clear and level head.
Anxiety is at an all time high pho!!! I honestly wasn't this jittery when I was getting ready to propose! And to add to it I got on Facebook and was reminded that today is 1 year since my uncles passing... THEN I was clearing out internet histories and all that just to cover myself incase XF does start spending time here again and lost this website!!! Took me 2 hours to figure out how I had it set up on my phone that I could actually use it!
Uggghhh just one of those days
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I haven't touched any drugs in many years but tonight I would prolly like to relax with a little glaucoma medicine to help me haha. I feel good, thoughts feel clear. Just very very excited/anxious/nervous. Almost like a kid on Christmas Eve, wondering if Santa is gonna bring that one big gift they have been begging for all year.
I sure hope mine is under the tree tomorrow...
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Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I really do hope things work out today for something positive, it would be real nice to see. It would be good if it goes the way you want i'm just concerned you have worked yourself up to getting a specific answer and unsure how you will react if doesn't happen that way. Remember to keep your emotions in check no matter what happens.
Take the day easy and still have a plan that doesn't revolve around XF so your not sitting and stewing on all of this. What are your plans for today and tomorrow, anything exciting?
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Plans for today... XF will be here within the hour. Got showered and dressed nice, not overdone but more than usual for a Saturday morning. Gonna soon put a pot of coffee on. I don't know if this is gonna be a 2 minute thing or a 6 hour conversation? I will update as soon as I know something.
I kept today fairly open schedule wise because of not knowing how long this is gonna take. Didn't want to rush anymything today. If it goes well, my plan is to hopefully spend some time as a family, be it playing with S4 at home or whatever. Im up for whatever the 2 of them are, movies, dinner... Anything they would want.
If it goes bad, I have every intention of remaining calm. I know, easier said than done, but I have to remember I created today... I have things to do as a back up plan if I need to fill up my day. Birthday party for the nephew tomorrow so I have to run for a gift. A bunch of buddies are getting the UFC fight tonight so I will end up there most likely?
A bunch of options either way but I gotta say I woke up this morning feeling level.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
