Detach buddy, detach... Blood IS thicker than water. You had do know that. Sure they thing she screwed up, but it is her daughter anyway.
You are doing well buddy, stay strong. It is still early days for you, but I thing you are slowly getting over the hump and things will soon be better (not necessarily with the W), you will grow stronger and pain will be lessend. Have no expectations, because when they get shattered, then there is hurt.
Thanks for the reply. I think you misunderstood my last post though. I am feeling fairly detached from WW. But I had been in regular contact with her family, up until recently. Nothing but assurances on how OM would never be accepted into the family, how I would always be welcome, etc. So the betrayal is coming from her family, not from WW. Yes, I suppose it was naive to expect that they wouldn't eventually start moving in that direction, but I was hoping they would at least wait until my D was final.
And, no, I'm not friends with WW. We rarely talk or see each other, other than once a week at my son's hockey game. I'll be fine, but it's just a fresh layer of hurt on what I thought were old wounds.
Hello mate,
no, I have not misunderstood your post.
You attached expectations to your inlaws that they will be fighting from your corner, you were gathering allies so too speak for the battle with your wife to "open her eyes". You were assured that they will never accept the OM. And these expectations were broken, that's why you hurt. It's OK, we have all done that, trying to win over the inlaws. It rarely works, because blood is thicker than water. That is why you should detach from them as well.
and I meant what I said, you really are doing well.
