I see that your new thread has been quite busy, and I will do my best to catch up on your sitch. My initial reaction to the first page is, why haven't you physically separated. I really think you need to space and the moving ahead with clearing out the old R to allow for a possibility of a new R to develop, and as long as you stay in the status quo, that wont happen. Again, I need to catch up, but I'll do my d*mnedest w/ you pho, and a bunch of others.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15