When I read your post I reconnected to my own sense of loss of a home, sense of family, security and stability when my relationship with Mr Ex ended. Like you I moved towns, home to my mother and sister. I felt the loss created by the distance for many months. But the distance was also a saving grace. It allowed me the opportunity to completely focus on me, on gaining my mental health back (not sure if you know but I had a major mental health break down that lead to BD - I so appreciated your visit to crazy town - it made me feel less alone), and while I hated the no contact between myself and Mr Ex, it was as I look back now such a blessing. He had become such a trigger to my anxiety. Any contact that I anticipated would trigger an anxiety attack, I would have days of not sleeping.
In the past V pointed out to me, related to another issue (the why and when I am motivated to make change) she confirmed something that I kinda always knew, sometimes change is prompted by a desire to move towards something and other times it is a moving away from. You are right I believe in your words about viewing this move as a gain rather than a loss, a move towards something, rather than away from.
Sometimes the Rose Coloured Spectacles are exactly what is called for. And I am sure you will ROCK THEM!!
