Hi Sotto - you have set some very healthy goals for yourself. As always, your grace and wisdom shine.

You have tremendous clarity about all the variables with which you are dealing. It is so difficult to see a situation for what it is when the person in that situation has no self awareness whatsoever. In the end, that is what we here all have in common, right?

I am thinking of you and sending you much deserved positive karma.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced