Thanks Ghost 56 Yes I could not afford to see a relationship coach and this really set me back, I made all the classic mistakes. I'm just focusing on the GAL at the moment and it has taken me this long to realise I just need to let her go and focus on myself. The problem is things come up day to day and when you don't have the answer as to how to handle a situation you tend to do the wrong thing cause you try to follow logic, but that seems to be precisely the wrong thing to do, its so confusing, and frustrating!
Yes I understand what you mean. I think we put too much into overthinking events too sometimes because we don't want to stir the water too much. Problem is... our wives have fired us as husbands already. In their minds, they have moved on and there is nothing that can fix the marriage. We still tend to stay in "fix" mode and tip toe around our wives feelings. And I don't think you're trying to follow logic when handling a situation you don't know the answer to, you're just being human and doing what you believe to be right and natural.
I think what you said about focusing on you and GAL are all you can control at this point. Out of all the things that have gone wrong, I realize this has been essential at keeping my head above water.
Hang in there mate as things will get better over the course, just takes time. There will be ups and downs, but the path slowly goes upwards in the long run.
Cheers.
M: 33 W: 30 T: 14 M: 9 S2 BD: May/2015 (w moves into spare bedroom one week later) EA / PA (discovered): June/2015 W moves out (living with OM): Sep/2015
