Hi Rouky I am doing OK. Had a little medical scare but the Dr said to not worry about it. Mornings are still very tough. I started taking my Prozac at bedtime instead of in the morning in hopes of improving that. Seems to be helping a little. I can't seem to get moving on the D front as it is just too depressing to work on it. I have gotten really bad a GAL. Need to get you and Ancaire and JulieH and myself and a couple of dudes and go have a party! There is a nice pub here in town where we could all have a drink, share a laugh and watch football.
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Don't you wish there was a meetup group for LBSs ? I feel like I can relate to and trust us a lot more. Although I know it doesn't necessarilyy mean that we are the "good guys" either!
We all definatly need to get out more though. I just signed up for some dance lessons. Socially wasn't a great group (lots of couples) for me but I like the skill set I will pick up. I know how you feel though. I had to just push myself to do it. Once I did I was happy I went, but i did feel lonely. What have you been doing? Sorry, I'm gonna catch up on your thread a bit.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
wow shotgun you have been through a lot! You are strong to have made it through, and if you can do that I think you will be able to get through anything, including this recent bout of depression.
I can relate to you dealing with your ex and their need for money and materialistic goods. My husband told me, the thing that is most concerning to him is how he is going to lose financially. I am sick thinking that he has strung me along for past few months probably just to not pay child support. He is nice except when I brought up child support. This is so hard for me to comprehend and you had some good advise in your threads.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
Sorry to hear about your health scare, and also very glad to hear that you don't need to worry about. I'm up for a meeting group! I can understand your feelings about divorce. I can see I'm heading this way too!
JulieH the first time I ever looked at my wife and thought she was hideous was when I told her that I wanted half of everything. I had never in sixteen years seen her face like that. It was frightening and now I let my attorney deal with her. When she found out that she would have to pay support she called me late at night to tell me what a piece of crap I was and that it reflected my shortcomings when it came to meeting her emotional needs in the relationship. It was at that moment however that I began to see things clearly. I saw that she had meant to leave me for a very long time but was trying to manipulate me into being submissive regarding finances in hopes of reviving the marriage a few years after the divorce. The final moment of clarity came when she showed absolutely no concern of my being left a cancer patient with astronomical bills and no insurance. It hurts to know that I gave my heart to someone who could not have cared less about me but I look at my son and can have no regrets.
Rouky like many others I live in fear of the cancer returning and seeing a report that suggests that there is something there that shouldn't be is very frightening. They are watching it closely though and we will deal with it if things change. Definitely up for a meeting group to discuss our challenges but it would probably require way too much alcohol. At any rate I have you guys here, thank God!
Cadet I will start a new thread; Lonely Hearts Club II
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
