Wife wants to separate at end of school year

[sandi2]

I am being too distant which in turn could suggest I too have thrown in the towel?

In what ways are you being distant? Are you acting cold to her?

I do not expect an overnight change and I am too worried that my wife, due to her strong willed nature, will never initiate conversation about our marriage.

Not initiating a conversation is not quite the same thing as not saying a work, know what I mean?

Living in the same house and sharing the same bed makes it difficult to go dark. Guess I've gone grey.

Why do you think you should go dark?

Maybe you can explain to me what going grey is?

I want to know how she feels about us now.

She told you when she gave you the BD. Why do you think her feelings have changed?

In the past we only had discussions about our M if I inititiated it. And those discussions were more like disagreements with me apologizing for past actions. I would know when something was bothering her but she would never initiate discussion. I had to ask all the time. At which point her anger towards me would show and I mouldy apologize again we would let the matter rest until the next discussion.

So why do you think it would go differently now?

Not sure how to act when we are together at home. I am always pleasant around her but I really am confused on how to do the180.

Taking a 180 degree in direction is a term meaning to go the opposite way. For example, you have always had to pry her to open up about any problems she had in the MR. Okay, in what ways did you try to get her to talk? Asking questions, trying to pressure her to talk, begging her to talk, getting upset, what? How would you take a 180 degree turn?