Hi Gmum,

I know it is hard because of the long distance. Mine moved to another state the first time around. I remember thinking how impossible the whole thing was. Here I was in Pennsylvania. I could be doing great, or I could be doing horrid, how would he know? My PMA could be through the roof or in the gutter. It did not matter. He was sitting in Maryland next to his pregnant girlfriend.

Like your H, mine needs physical touch, and that was completely out of the question for me.

I know it is impossible, but since you can't control it, for now ignore the physical touch LL. Do you only respond on ONE LL? Yes, you have your favorite, but the others will produce a response from you as well. So concentrate on what you can control.

I see you are worried that your ONE job idea might not work out. Can you brainstorm some more job ideas? If you can, throws some more pots on the burner so if one does not work, you wont starve.


Me: 42
H: 45
M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs
D: 17
D: 15
S: 12
I kicked him out 8/21/15
I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!