Hi Scrant, just read up on your other thread and I'm sorry you have to be here. Try to keep your posts in the same thread until it reaches 100 posts, it will help people follow along. Another good thing to do is post often as threads fall a few pages back very quickly. So to make sure people are exposed to your thread, just keep posting. Even if its just you posting to yourself for several days or weeks, keep posting and eventually people will catch up and offer support.

Maybe Cadet can merge these threads also.

I cant imagine having to go through this for the amount of years you have but there are things you can do to help out the situation. I know you love your W but its obvious she needs help and to understand how certain things work, things she hasn't learned yet.

As long as you continue to take her back and be her friend why would she stop doing what shes doing? If things don't work out this time with OM it looks like she will just come back to you and the process will repeat in a few years again, I'm sure no one wants that. She will continue to go from man to man chasing what she feels will make her happy instead of realizing it comes from inside. The same with love, she will just jump around until she finds what shes looking for, but she never will with how shes looking.

Its obvious she does have feelings for you, but you cant keep telling her to consider you if things don't work out with OM, it goes against what you want and is only enabling her to continue doing it. Stop doing it. For a woman to feel love for another man she generally has to respect him, I'm not sure she can do that with you right now. I hope someone else can come into your thread and give you better advice on what specifically to do. For now I think you need to stop being the man she can always walk back to no matter what, stop being her special friend while she is involved in an A. Don't confuse this with being an [censored] toward her, you can interact with her from a place of strength and love while remaining firm on your boundaries. If sandi stops by she can give you some tough love on this also. I think when depression is mixed with a WW it changes their attitude slightly toward you but the fact is shes still willing to do anything to get what she thinks will make her feel good, no matter what it does to those around her.

What are you doing to GAL right now? Exercise, sleep, eating, etc. The basics of DB that will help you become the man only a fool would leave and make you enjoy life with or without her? Why not rejoin that sports team and interact with some new or old friends. What else can you do to liven up your life, maybe something new with S15?

Last edited by Fogg; 11/12/15 11:59 AM.
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