I'm glad you've updated as I've been wondering what's up in your world and how you are doing.

So, my thoughts are that he has asked you to contact him more frequently, so it's ok to do the 180 from what you've been doing and start contacting him more frequently.

Re: the trip - I have no idea if this is right or wrong, but I wonder if you couldn't call him on the phone rather than text/email? The reason I say have an actual conversation is that it is SO easy to misinterpret texts/emails. You get more info on phone and even more on skype or facetime. Maybe text him and ask if he is open to a phone call or skype session to discuss the travel dates? Any DB Vets think that's a bad idea?

I'm sorry everything is messy. I know the feeling well. It's very uncomfortable, and I would wish you peace somewhere in your life, dear Lou. I'm glad you've made the decision to leave the job. Update the resume now while you're there - start a list at work of what you do and add a little more to it while you are there at the end of every day - kind of like a journal of what you did that day. That way you'll remember everything when you do the actual updating on your off time. Make sense?

I'm sorry your home isn't feeling like yours any longer frown try to carve out some personal time for yourself.

Hang in the Lou - you're in my thoughts and prayers xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver