Wife wants to separate at end of school year

[Bhuda1]

Feeling better lately. Still trying to find the time to complete DR. Living in the same house and sharing the same bed makes it difficult to go dark. Guess I've gone grey. I find it hard not initiating conversation although I have not discussed our M since the bomb dropped.

There is no tension, most of our discussion is about our children but we do ask each other about our workdays. Sometimes she asks sometimes I do. I keep my answers short and do not get into too much detail.

I am trying to GAL but it's been difficult. I stopped playing hockey years back to make sure I was always available to take my boys to their games and practices. I started to play again on nights where my boys were not scheduled to play.

I want to know how she feels about us now. In the past we only had discussions about our M if I inititiated it. And those discussions were more like disagreements with me apologizing for past actions. I would know when something was bothering her but she would never initiate discussion. I had to ask all the time. At which point her anger towards me would show and I mouldy apologize again we would let the matter rest until the next discussion.

Not sure how to act when we are together at home. I am always pleasant around her but I really am confused on how to do the180. I have stopped pursuing. What else can I do. I fear I will never know if my actions are working as she has never been one to open up without coercion.