Thought it was time for an update. I know I haven't been around for a while but I've been busy organising the rest of my life. But I thought tonight deserved an update.
Tonight was the night we decided to split the small stuff. The larger assets were all agreed via email but the small stuff needed the personal touch.
Now for those needing to catch up remember my house is sold. My ExW is heavily pregnant with OM's baby and she has taken a lease on her own place that she moves into this weekend, hence the splitting of the assets. I move at the same time as Huddy. My M isn't salvageable.
Now today I emailed to say that tomorrow may be better simply because I'll be home earlier as I need to pick up S10. To be fair to the Ex she had made arrangements for tonight so I conceded that we could do it this evening but it was going to be late. I had no idea how long this was going to take.
Funny thing is, and for all the new DBers (Ghost, I'm looking at you) I felt perfectly fine. Calm, no stress and no attachment.
So when she came here she had her normal persona on her. She was as confident and self assured as the woman I loved. Nothing was phasing her. And nothing was phasing me. I was calm. Softly spoken and at times funny.
The mood was light. We joked a little but mostly kept to business. Both of us were generous because we both knew what we wanted. No arguments happened.
At the end of the evening we talked about a new schedule I want to implement for S10. I said I'd email her the details but she wanted to find out more. When I said i'd prefer to email her because it's getting late and I wanted to get comfortable she looked a little hurt. I thought I was imagining it so didn't say anything.
Then, for the first time since this started she started to weep. Not tears, weep. I instinctively moved towards her but stopped myself from the automatic hug. I haven't hugged my Ex since last Christmas. This is the only time I felt anything. I had butterflies in my stomach. But it quickly passed in seconds.
She then said, in a very teary voice that she was sad, and that she had to go. My leaving statement was for her to be careful driving. She was still crying when she got to her car.
That's the first time she's shown true remorse.
I did not cry. Still no tears even now. I'm steady as a rock.
I do feel sorry for my Ex. I really do. I hope it all works out for her.
Peace friends.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
