Thanks for your reply.
Im in Australia, and have limited funds, so a OS call may be out of reach at this time.
I still talk to her and had dinner with her last week. I only catch up with her about every 4-6 weeks or so. I still see her fairly regularly when she drops off my daughter after they have an outing. She has come around a few times for coffee, although she is still adamant about not wanting to return to the relationship, she is still enjoying the no strings bit.
I am really torn about the birthday thing, I don't want to upset my children by not inviting her, but my friends say I have to start excluding her from family things that are for me. I don't want to be nasty to her either, and make her think I am doing it out of spite. I just don't know what to do

Last edited by AU Bob; 11/11/15 10:04 PM.
H 50
W 46
T 31
M 24
EA 11.11.15
PA not sure.
Dx3
Separated 5.12.15 (not legally)