JPEG. I'm not sure what the right thing is but definitely wait a while. Don't respond in the moment.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
...or you could go with the gracious approach, and simply acknowledge the compliment with a "thank you."
I find it interesting that he took the time to tell you that. He remembered something that he likes about you. It doesn't amount to much at the moment, but in the overall big picture, that could be huge. Two steps forward, one step back. Just know that, and be patient. I wish my H could find something nice to say about me. This post gives me hope that with time, his hatred might begin to fade.
I couldn't help myself... I replied with what I felt. I said "it's nice to hear you still think of me" and "I am pretty funny". He then replied to that with "I always think of u" and "you are hilarious actually!"
It sounds good right? He is a charmer - i read his words and my heart skips a beat it still does - But I also know earlier in the day he was telling a friend that he feels like he is in limbo because I am stalling with moving on - so were these texts just a way to butter me up? I don't get it
He could be doing a temperature check wanting to know if you are still in play as plan B if things don't work out with the other woman. He fired you as his wife and is hopefully starting feel the consequences of his actions. Let him feel those consequences. You are smart to focus on yourself and your kids.
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Don't read too much into it. If it's for real more will come.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
A few observations if I may, firstly there s a 20 year age gap, WH is having sex, and spending. This is a classic gold dig scuzzy behaviour, she will move on. Frankly she is acting no better than a snot rag. As for bonking in a place where the kids can see it, out and out nasty. It's an affair down. When WH runs out of cash she will move on to the next target, if she isn't already. This is love of WH resources in my book. Unlikely to be lurve......
I really dislike labels so let's stick to behaviour. You can consider establishing this is statistically likely to last 18 months to 2 years, you need to protect your fins as much damage can be done in that time. Keep your cards really close to your chest and the sooner you deprive this pair the oxygen of cash resources the better. Get an L, a really good one. Keep stum about it, to everyone including your kids.
Draw up a budget, if L says S is best to protect the assets do it. Examine Pension sharing, get your share in your name. Do not leave your home. Time for serious action. Very serous indeed. Lock away college funds into trust arrangements. You are the more stable sensible parent and WH is being led by his hormones to a lonely poverished old age. Not you. Don't be stuck with his debt and possible bankruptcy, now is the time to be proactive.
In due course we can ask about your emotional state etc, but there is urgent work to do. You my lovely Jpeg get going, too much time has been wasted.
Find yourself a fantastic safe person, someone level headed, grounded in finance and solid on planning. Independent of WH. Leave emotion out of it.
WH will regret this in due course, then is time to repair your R or M.
That's my 2c, time jpeg to look after you. You at want to read Pinks thread as her WH was enthralled to a scuzzy of this type, we called her TauC (tart au citron,) she was a French fancy or a French tart. This one needs a name that will make you smile and put her in her place. Perhaps we could be calling her money grubber or mubber. I am sure your delicious imagination can find a name for this delightful specimen. The one in my WH life was fishwife, we also have the duck on one thread.
Keep posting, take action
V
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