From a woman who just moved in with her mom again... I know it will not be great. But it sounds like it might be the best for the short term.

What do you need to do to be self-sufficient? Would you need a certain amount of aid? What steps do you need to take to get that aid?

If you never met H and he is completely out of the picture, how would you have income to live?

I understand the battle with the monster will make the road ahead challenging (and no, I was not speaking of H), but it is worth it to get to the other side standing completely on your own 2 feet.

What is the first step you could take to move towards a separate life from him. I am not in any way saying give up. On the contrary, I think standing up may be the fastest way BACK to him.

And I just have to say, I still have tears in my eyes from reading how he wanted you to use his lawyer. And he called you stupid???


Me: 42
H: 45
M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs
D: 17
D: 15
S: 12
I kicked him out 8/21/15
I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!