None. He has come over and spent the night. They have only spent the night at his place twice.
Well, there you go. Tell him this doesn't work for you. He doesn't get to parent a couple of evenings, while you deal with them alone the rest of the time. You are letting him do you and the kids dirty. Do you know how you are letting him?
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I called him yesterday because my S 16 was having a bad day and told me he wanted to move back to Cali.
So why on earth did you call your sorry H? He doesn't care that you are having a bad day or that S16 is upset. If you didn't have a H, how would you deal with your son? Do you think this will somehow make your H come back to the M?
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I then reacted and he hung up on me...cue the texts...ughhhh why is this so hard?!
Why? Frankly, b/c you are behaving as if you are some spineless, weak female that depends on a man to do all her thinking, disciplining the kids, and rescuing her when she's having a bad day.
Stop crying and begging him. Stop letting him spend the night, while he isn't committed to a M with you! Stop reacting when he doesn't fall for one of your damsel in distress moments. Stand up and be the woman you were meant to be. Have some spunk! You can get him back, but this certainly is not the way.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
