I sent him a picture of our baby last night and here's how he responded ( side note, he has a hard time opening up emotionally and has refused to go to counseling with me, even just for close. He said he does not care about our relationship or what happened, but I don't believe him ) " thank you for the photo. I love our children so much!! You and I have made beautiful children together!! I don't regret the choices I have made to marry you and to create the family we have made. The choice that you and I made together to leave school and get married was the best decision I made. It has made me the person I am now. Yes I have made many mistakes during that time. I have fallen short many times during our marriage as a husband. I'm sorry for those mistakes W, I really am. I tried my best, I really did. I know that you don't agree with my choice of divorce and I don't expect you to. I just want you to know that I love you and I always will! I have you and our families best interest in my thoughts and every choice that I make. Please forgive me. I have asked God to forgive me and I know that the choice will affect us in many ways. I do understand that moving on with my choice. Understand that I will never have ill feelings towards you moving on, I just want the best for you! I'm here for you...I know that we have not been the best to each other lately. I don't want to tear each other down anymore. I am moving forward but I will not tear you down in the process anymore. You don't do that to people you care about. I'm hurting you enough by the choice that I have made.". how do I respond?? Or do I? normally I would pour out my heart over this. I'm very emotionally connect, while he isn't. So I don't want to respond like I would normally. But I don't want him to think that by not responding, it didn't mean anything to me. Because it meant a lot and although he believes our marriage is over...I am moving forward in trying to save our marriage. I have so much love for him and I have tried to tell him he's making a mistake and that has only pushed him further and he has moved faster towards filing because of my actions. I think he's confused and divorce won't things better like he imagines.
I think you are on the right track. Although I would accept his settlement offer and the money involved, I would NOT take nothing. If you want to fight for more - OK.
I would also for give him. Tell him that you love him enough to let him go if that is what he truly desires.
He sounds guilt ridden.
This is what may happen.
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My ultimate goal is to reconcile, even if that means letting him get the divorce and letting him realize on his own that we should be together
