Back on these forums again 2

[Mona52]

I was not pointing any fingers (Judy) about the jail remark
I am happy to hear you are being a good girl, but only a little. Wouldn't it be nice if ONE person on the forum here was just doing what we all WISH we could?

I just want to log in and see a person who starts their post like:

"I broke every single DB rule today and it was amazing! I went up to OW's H today and told him about the A his wife was having with my H, and after we put our clothes back on, we both confronted our S's."

JOKING, that is a bad idea in almost every way!

But you ask a good question, I am not sure when it became ok to stay up all night. I am a gamer as well, and when a new game first comes out, it is normal to pull an all nighter. We used to play games together, at the same time, and only with each other. But, after the kids came (17 years ago...) gaming became second. I still game, but only here and there, and alot of the times with my kids. I am not really sure how his gaming increased. I can tell you it was bad in 2013.

It was so bad that I did not know if we would get through it. I expressed my displeasure in sleeping all alone. He agreed. He wanted to stop gaming, and he did for a few months. Then it slowly crept back up to full blown again, and that is when I had enough.

I would not say he had depression. I would absolutely say he has depression now. Every time we talk it is all doom and gloom, how bad HIS life is. He pays too much for child support, he has no food, he has to work full time, blah, blah, blah.

He is a smoker, but even though that is an addiction, I would not say he has an addictive personality. He just does not have a future thinking personality.

When our M was great, we were obsessed with future planning together. ok, none of our plans actually worked, but that was when we were at our best. He has zero future plans, except gaining another level in his video game. I tried to talk to him about future plans, but he has been uninterested in future plans for approximately 4 years now.

But his future thinking personality is gone. He is not sad, we laughed everyday and still do. When he gets home, he sees the computer and just does not have plans to do anything else.