Hi Jeff, I know you are getting a lot thrown your way. I'm going to throw some more. Years ago, I was a WAW, but worse, I was wayward. DR really doesn't use the term "wayward Wife", but I personally believe that when a woman is cheating, lying, being disrespectful, etc., she is definitely wayward. I have some threads on the subject, and what I have experienced and observed over the years I have been on the board. You'll find the beginning on that list on Cadet's post to you.
BTW, I stayed in my M and we are still married today. I have stayed on the board b/c it had a big hand in helping me. I have started trying to mainly help the H's who have a WW, by explaining the mindset of a WW. I believe he has to demonstrate a stronger, firmer stand, in order to gain her respect again. Please don't misunderstand what I mean by stronger/firmer. The WW threads will explain.
Nothing else works until she begins to respect him as a man. You may be a really good guy, but for some reason, she lost the respect. No romancing, no spending more time together, no catering to her wants, no touching, not even correcting all the things she has complained about you. Losing respect is at the bottom of it, I can guarantee you. Other things happened to start her feelings of disrespect, but that is the bottom line.
You must first learn about DB detaching (on Cadet's post), then learn about boundary setting (same page), and please read about the mindset of a WW.
You can do all of this while you are waiting to get your book.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Years ago, I was a WAW, but worse, I was wayward. DR really doesn't use the term "wayward Wife", but I personally believe that when a woman is cheating, lying, being disrespectful, etc., she is definitely wayward. I have some threads on the subject, and what I have experienced and observed over the years I have been on the board. You'll find the beginning on that list on Cadet's post to you. 
