Need advice for a WW who left Part 4

[dwh15]

Not much new to report. Life has mostly settled down, and feels sort of normal, but still up and down days. WW and I rarely talk or see each other anymore. Usually a couple of texts every day asking about kids and how they are doing, brief and to the point. I've accepted the coming D but not happy about it. I still get sad, and angry, but have given up thinking WW is coming to her senses any time in the next few months, or even years. I do not think she is going to end up happy, and know there is nothing I can do to help her, nor is it my job to help her. From what little I hear through the kids and mutual friends, WW seems to be frequently stressed, generally not happy, and frequently has some sort of cold or flu bug.

I heard last week that WW's family is having their Christmas this year on Dec 18 and she wanted to make sure she had the kids that evening. No idea if OM is invited, but I would assume so. It hurts to think about that family getting together at a major holiday and me not being there. Guess it's something I have to get used to. I'm sure it will be awkward for everyone involved. I'm going to plan something fun that night to keep my mind off it. Good news is kids will be with me Christmas day, so I'm sure that will be a rough day for WW. She's already asked if she can spend a few minutes with the kids that morning, which I agreed to, trying to make it easier on the boys.

My S8 recently spent the whole weekend with WW, and it was hard to have him gone, but he was back early Sunday afternoon and seemed to enjoy himself. After I picked him up, he told me "Dad, I'm just happy to have my life back to normal". I had to smile. We are all adjusting and while the holidays will be difficult, I do believe we'll make it through just fine. I am starting to realize that it's going to take me a long time to be ready for another serious romantic relationship, but I suppose it's healthy that I recognize that and don't try to jump into something to temporarily make me feel better.