Vapo, thank you. I actually do forgive her. I know that she was hurting, and did what she thought needed be done. I don't agree with it. But honestly, right now if a switch were flipped, and we were bettering our R, then we would only be out a few months of pain and a few thousand dollars. The money will come, the pain is worth it in the end. As long as we learn and grow from it.

I guess maybe I am close to the right path. I will pull back more though. W is asking me for favors with the kids even more. Asked what my schedule is for the week of Thanksgiving, and assumed that I would keep the boys while she worked. Didn't ask on that one, just assumed.

I am torn by this. Is she starting to test the waters and reach out, is she just flat out using me? She then texted me about babysitters for the day prior to turkey day. That's on her, I pay support and it is to be used for that. It doesn't matter to me who she has keep them as long as they are safe and happy. I don't even need included on those conversations. And another about a Dr bill that she had to pay. She agreed to pay it, and was just telling me the cost of it. Again, this doesn't concern me. I need to quit watching for a response, I guess. Time to pull back and wait. Time to have some fun for myself.


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I am grateful today:

Buying a plane ticket to go see a longtime friend next month.

Have the boys the next 2 days

Have a new project here at work to play with

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Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....