I sat on the coffee table in front of her as she sat on the couch 1. I very sincerely thanked her for her apology. She gave a shy little smile.
2. She agreed I should keep the house. I think she realized she can't afford it
3. She started crying and said "Bummer, eh" I put my hand on her leg and said "Things don't have to continue to progress this way" I then walked back into the kitchen.
4. a Bit later I went back, sat down in front of her again and told her What I said was not a fleeting thought. I meant it. Then went to bed.
5. She came into the MBR with D4 and I, Climbed into the bed, put her head on my chest and hugged me for a good 5 minutes with D4.
6. This morning she came into the office sat on the floor with me and hugged me some more. Nothing was said. She then got up and kissed me on the forehead.
- I'm optimistic but definitely don't trust it.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
3. She started crying and said "Bummer, eh" I put my hand on her leg and said "Things don't have to continue to progress this way" I then walked back into the kitchen.
4. a Bit later I went back, sat down in front of her again and told her What I said was not a fleeting thought. I meant it. Then went to bed.
G, do not repeat that again. It may have had an affect...maybe not, but you do not need to repeat yourself, ok.
Excellent! Thank you for the advice. I will not repeat it again
Another question. 2 weeks ago she explained part of her little fantasy world to me. She said she sees us still divorcing and maybe in a couple months I would call her up and ask her to dinner or a walk or something. We wouldn't call it dating we wouldn't label it but as issues arise we could see a counselor to help work them. Then maybe one day there would be a new proposal, new ring and a new ceremony.
I do not live in this fantasy world.
I was thinking about telling her I've been thinking about what she said and I do not see us getting back together. If she finishes the D then it's over.
thoughts?
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
exactly. How do I burst her bubble? shake her back to reality? Kind of like when I told her if we D we will not be buddy buddy. We will not be friends
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Also, I think she wants to dangle the carrot so she can explore where her R with OM goes. If it doesn't work out, then you get to buy her a new ring and go for walks...
Well, my thought is she thinks this fantasy is a possibility. I do not. When she told me this I did not agree with her but I also didn't tell her this sh*t isn't going to happen.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Very attractive woman began flirting with me Monday night at the gym and worked out with me Monday and Tuesday night. She now wants to hang out this weekend. If I do I will try to arrange a group setting. She's been separated for 4 years and her D finalizes next week. She knows mine finalizes next month. She and her friend actually said "stay M no matter how awful your W is".
It feels good to be approached and flirted with. I do understand it's just a coping mechanism.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
