I decided that after four months of dealing with this I can't anymore. It's taking too much of a toll on me. I told her that I cannot live like this anymore. If she didn't want to be in the marriage or work on it I couldn't be her husband anymore. She wanted to stay married for financial reasons but I'm done doing favors for someone who disconnected herself from me and our son for another man. I literally can't take pacing and thinking about her all day. It's just too much. I need to move on with my life and this brings an end but also a new beginning for me. She still blames me and said "you pushed me into another man's arms I didn't want this". I deserve better and will continue to improve myself. Even though I didn't get my wife back I've learned so much from reading and being on this forum. I will use all this in the future with future relationships to make sure this doesn't happen again. Thanks everyone. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers