Thanks all for the responces i think i am coming to terms with the fact that i cannot change how my W acts or what she is doing quickly or through confrontation. I have essentially semi confronted her 3 times since origonal confrontation and each time she has gotten more upset and push away harder and harder.
M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016