Hi LouR - Good to hear from you. Sorry things are rough at work.
It sounds like your husband is trying to communicate his needs, which is a healthy thing!
You show tremendous kindness and patience towards him.
Thinking of you and sending you positive karma.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced