Hi Enigma, wow, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. We definitely have similarities. I am sorry to hear about your situation. It is definitely not easy dealing with all of these emotions at once. Sounds to me like you have done a lot of maturing and growing during this situation, I have began thanking God for this situation as I know it was meant for me to grow and learn something valuable. I agree with you, we do hope that our wives see the changes and find it within themselves to want to R with a new relationship. We cannot stop moving forward and definitely not hold out for their sakes.
In one of my previous posts, I wrote that we need to be open to everything this new stage in our lives brings, even the possibility of meeting someone new. I still hold out hope, and know that the current relationship with my will get better with time, in what direction it goes, that I am not sure of.
Today, continuing to work on forgiveness, letting go, surrendering, and letting God. Everything happens for a reason, I am here to grow, I am dealing with continuous hurts to learn how to let go, detach, and focus on the person I lost during this marriage, myself. At least that's what I believe. Hoping to get to a point in which my wife occupies less headspace than she does currently. Working on my obsession with what she is doing and reminding myself that this is about ourselves, healing ourselves.
The following quote is one of my favorites, and I plan on purchasing it in a wooden sign to constantly remind me of its message:
Quote of the day:
“Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about those who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be worth it.”
- Harvey MacKay
For those interested in somethings to stay positive:
