I drank to much and was unpleasant to be with. My wife had an EA/PA. We both felt guilty about what we did to the marriage. We decided to try and make it work. We swept it all under the rug and did well for a while. It was a big mistake to not see a MC back then. Now I am paying for it, things are very grim in my situation. If you two want to try and make it work make sure you two go to MC. Just relaying my experience, I wish someone had told me. Good Luck