My husband is a wah and going through a mLC. I'm not use to him being hurtful, but since he left he's been actively pushing me away as hard as he can. I finally decided to go dark and I'm implementing the LRT as he is already filing for divorce. After he said some hurtful things, in which I would normally respond in a needy and sad way, I decided to not respond. I have been hoping for him to help me understand, but I realize that will not happen. He won't go to counseling, even so we can better communicate for our three kids under 5. I sent him a picture of our baby after he skyped with the kids. She is 4 months old, and he left me when she was 1month, so I think he feels guilt especially when I send him pictures and he realizes all he's missing out on. After I sent the picture, I was surprised to get a text from him a couple of hours later that wasn't filled with the hate I had been dealing with since he left. I don't know if I should respond or how I should respond. I want to respond but I feel I should do opposite of what id normally do. The text was very emotional to me and I feel a response to it would be better in person, in the future. Here's the text: thank you for the photo. I love our children so much!! You and I have made beautiful children together!! I don't regret the choices I have made to marry you and to create the family we have made. The choice that you and I made together to leave school and get married was the best decision I made. It has made me the person I am now. Yes I have made many mistakes during that time. I have fallen short many times during our marriage as a husband. I'm sorry for those mistakes W, I really am. I tried my best, I really did. I know that you don't agree with my choice of divorce and I don't expect you to. I just want you to know that I love you and I always will! I have you and our families best interest in my thoughts and every choice that I make. Please forgive me. I have asked God to forgive me and I know that the choice will affect us in many ways. I do understand that moving on with my choice. Understand that I will never have ill feelings towards you moving on, I just want the best for you! I'm here for you...I know that we have not been the best to each other lately. I don't want to tear each other down anymore. I am moving forward but I will not tear you down in the process anymore. You don't do that to people you care about. I'm hurting you enough by the choice that I have made.".
