How many days out of the month do the kids stay with their dad? It sounds as if you need some time without them, so that you could do things for yourself.
I understand depression. I am the type that when I am depressed, I don't want to go anywhere or do anything special for myself. However, that is really what we should do. It may feel like taking medication in the beginning, but we have to do what it takes to get out of flunk. Are you taking anything for depression now? If I had 4 kids, I don't how I'd get out of bed in the mornings!
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My H is a presence in their lives but he does not call them every night and that is something my youngest needs right now
Have you tried dialing your H's phone and putting your youngest on to talk? You don't have to say anything to your H, just give the phone to your child.
What are the ages of you and your H?
Has there been any other affairs in the past?
I think you need to have a lot of pride in your appearance and show much dignity in your behavior toward your H. No more begging, pleading, writing letters, etc. That is like a death sentence to the spouse who is not wanting to stay in the M.
What was his relationship with the kids like before he left?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
