Hey,

W came home after working late, I gave one kid a bath and put him to bed, W took care of the older kid.

W started a converstion, for what is happening for the weekend as she is going to a wedding. W is in the wedding party her best friend is getting married.

The wedding is near her parents house so W will be staying at her parents house for two nights, Friday night, wedding on sat then sat night.

I drop the kids off at the inlaws on Thursday night and MIL will drop them off to me Friday after work

W will be meeting me half way to pick up the kids to go back to the inlaws on sunday for dinner.

She also mentioned that the kids have missed there play event three times as the organizer called her, she was asking me if everything is ok, as she didn't know they missed so many days.

I told her that one of the days she didn't take them, the other day I had to go to the bank and the other time was when the kids were having so much fun I decided they wouldn't rush to go and just miss it.

Its time to register for the winter session and she is giving me a hard time saying why register if they don't go and am I going to be able to get them there?

I was holding back got frustrated because she was basically saying I was incapable of getting them there.

I had to leave the room as I was getting worked up. She knows what buttons to push and then says no I am not saying that you are doing a bad job of getting them there. Or that you cant do it. But that is what she is saying.

I woke up in the middle of the night and started crying, the reality of us not going to her best friends wedding hit me, we used to do everything together and I was close with her best friend. Never imagined I wouldn't get invited.

I want to ask my W if it was her or her friend that didn't want me to go? I feel so left out. I feel the loss that my W should be feeling.

Do I ask her this? or does it not matter?

In the morning I didn't ask her and I think she didn't hear me crying as she didn't mention it.


Me late 30's
W mid 30's
T 15, M 10
S4, S7
ILYBNILWY June 2015
In house S July 2015
W rings off Oct 2015
My ring off Feb 2015
Separate houses June 2016