Working on improving Ghost

[Huddy]

You're not abusive, the talking doesn't work, you need to think differently. She is manipulating you in to believing you are some kind of anti Christ with two heads and seventeen feet. It took me a long time to see how the manipulation would make me feel terrible, despite the fact I had done nothing wrong.

Look bud, you need to feel happy in yourself, that's the key. I know how you feel. It's like your left arm has been severed and you're flailing around like a fish out of water. You're hurting and confused. With this, you're looking at every reaction your W makes and then applying it to your behaviour.

My W has done the same. She'll leave out forms and documents that make out she's disappearing with the kids for ever and beat me wit words and sayings to see if she can get a reaction. After a while, you just shrug your shoulders and don't let it affect you. That's when you start to see the difference in your W's interactions with you. She'll start to get curious about what you're doing, realising she can't control you and make your life worse.

I don't mince my words, you know that, but I've been on the sad train and it's not a good ride. I'm not on the happiest ride on the world, but I am in control of the things I can control and I'm just letting the rest float on by. You can do this, but you have to start listening to some of the advice you're being given. I wish I had applied harder techniques at the start; I think I would be further down the road if I had.