Ok, where to start. When I walked in I said to her. I know my mind has been working overtime today, I'm sure yours was too. What do you think the future holds?
She actually opened up a bit which is unusual for her, talked about what "pushed" her away and her feelings. Gave me a lot of room to validate things. Lots of eye contact, lots of civil conversation.
My response to all that after she was done was that it is time to make a decision. (I know, not exactly DB standards). I said I will not sit back and be an backup plan, it is either now or never type thing. Explained how bad this whole situation has affected me and let her know I'm in if she can SHOW me she is.
I have no idea where this will go from here but I told her I need an answer by Friday. And if that answer is OM I'm closing the door for good m, as I won't sit here and know what is going on and continue to be thrown blows.
She says she understands my view on it, and realizes she continues to dogma her hole deeper. (I threw out a DB term here and said) I have tried to keep the path home as smooth as possible, but if you keep making more potholes, it's not gonna be passable.
Somewhere in there it was also brought up that "everybody hates her". I said nobody hates you, some people have come to me with concerns about how things went down but nobody hates you. We build a solid foundation for US and let everybody else fall in where they will.
Last edited by Uphill; 11/10/1502:20 AM.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
