To be more specific. Suggestions such as going dark in the 37 rules but I read about complimenting her on little things. Seems to be a conflict to me.
Go back and read the 37 rules. Which rule says to Go Dark? There is a big difference in DBing detachment and Going Dark. I believe the only way a person can successfuly go dark is when they are living in separate homes and have no children. (Apparently there are others who believe in going gray, etc. I think that loses the concept of what Going Dark is all about.....but maybe it's just my pet peeve). Anyway, my point is that it isn't in the 37 Rules.
Which rule says not to complement?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
