So that's what I am looking at, if I refuse or stall the S agreement, and the sale of the house she will be forced to file for D after the one year separation is up.
I don't want to keep my W here when she doesn't want to be with me. I want to be in the best condition to be ready to move out. That means money saved up, credit somewhat restored. For it to actually be able to happen will take time.
My kids know nothing as well. So this is going to get worse. My kids are asking me why I am not going to grandmas and grandpas. I have soccer games now but I don't want it to look like I would rather go to soccer then spend time with my kids.
When I mentioned to them that the babysitter was coming they both cried and didn't want me to leave. I never saw this before. They were so upset. I think they know something is up, they have mentioned about not moving again and that they like this house so much, this is at 6 and 4. How could they not know, my W and I show no affection in front of the kids now, my oldest is very affectionate towards my W like he is taking up the slack. He also show me a lot of disrespect , name calling, not listing, hitting me. I think it comes from how my W and I are acting towards each other like strangers. All I can do is tell him how much I love him and put him in time outs. Also the disrespect could be coming from his mother. She has told him in the past how I only bought her flowers once and that I am so slow doing things and that I didn't do XXX that she asked.
I can see this getting worse as time goes on and I cant tell him the truth right now that mommy wants to walk away from the family and doesn't want to work on the MR.
It doesn't help that my W has turned to the older child for her cuddling and snuggling watching tv and taking him out places. She is replacing what I used to do to some degree with my oldest and he is acting like his place in the house has gone up a notch past me.
I think its great he has a good r with his mom but with the dynamic changed with in house separation that the kids don't know about it confuses them.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
